Should we have a Humanist Wedding?

A lot of people when they start thinking about their wedding know straight away that they don’t want to get married in a church. They start thinking about alternatives and many have heard about humanist weddings and humanist celebrants. Although I do marry humanist couples, I am not a member of the humanist society, because I would never pass their very rigorous screening process! Primarily because I am not at all fixed on the idea of there being a God or not a God. 

As I wrote to a potential client recently, “I am usually quite private about how [God/Spirit/Magick] manifests for me as I do see it as deeply personal and experiential”. There’s no way I could articulate how I arrived at the complex set of beliefs and philosophy that shapes who I am today, let alone expect anyone else to take these on as their own! 

Humanists are generally sure that there is no God, and prefer to rationalise away any experiences one might have that could lead towards a spiritual belief. I prefer the openness of agnosticism as it allows me to lean into the rituals and ceremonial aspects of my life that work so well to ground me and connect me to the great unknown. 

If rationalism and logic don’t always work for you you are probably not a humanist. Consider instead creating a bespoke wedding ceremony with an independent celebrant (like me!) who will work with you to create something with depth, meaning, and maybe even a little bit of the mystic!

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