I Do Declare Celebrates 10 Years of Marriage

I was together with my partner Martin for 2 years before we got hitched. He was very serious about me from the start but I was a whimsical singleton at the time and was, for the large part, bemused by Martin’s steadfast intentions! And here we are 12 years on and still holding hands in the supermarket.

The best thing about my marriage is the sense of camaraderie that we have between us. We are mostly on the same page and moving in the same direction, and that is reaffirming and joyful.

10 years ago we stood at the front of all the people who love us and declared our vows. We said these special, once-in-a-lifetime words to each other. Words that were risky, and that made us vulnerable. Why ever would we do that? Well I know now, why vows are so important and dare I say, sacred. They validate everything that has come before, the intensity of connection, the development of deep love, the passion, the butterflies. Because over time, when those things become less intense we might wonder if it ever happened, or if it really mattered. 

The ritual creates a point of reference. Particularly in this throw-away culture, with divorce rates higher than ever and young people struggling to find real connections in their dating experiences. Marriage structures love and creates a holding space for us to grow, not just as an individual, but as a person among other persons.

With this in mind it might just be time to start the next part of your journey. If your partner is kind and reliable, and your friends and family love them too, I would say you’ve found a keeper! 

I talk more about the value of ceremony in this section of my website. 

And of course if you are looking for a celebrant to hold your wedding ceremony then you have found me, please do get in touch!